If you’re like most people you hate the idea of making mistakes. Who wouldn’t? We get taught from a very early age that making mistakes is bad. All through school, you get punished for making mistakes and rewarded for not making them.

Imagine if the teacher said to you: “I’m so pleased that you [...]

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I often get asked by clients I work with on confidence issues, whether they will need to be free of anxiety to be truly confident. The image they have of truly confident people is someone who is pretty much relaxed about everything. They think that a confident person is so full of self-belief that [...]

Imagine being confident? Imagine what would happen if you were so confident that you could walk into a room, feeling totally secure in yourself. You could talk to anyone, anywhere. You were unruffled, relaxed and comfortable. When you read that paragraph, most likely you formed some kind of experience in your mind. This could [...]

So you’ve realized that you’re actually not very good at something. Can you develop confidence in something that you’re incompetent at? Yes. Will being confident make up for the incompetence? No.

Confidence without competence is not a particularly good idea. As they say in marketing, if you’re promoting yourself before you get good, you [...]

Have you ever seen a baby try and walk? Babies who are trying to walk, try to do it over many weeks and months. They make a small effort, usually fail and then try again. It is only after many efforts that they eventually master the skill.

What does that have to do with [...]

One of the ways that we judge our abilities or our performance in life is by comparing ourselves to others. This seems to make sense, since it would be a good indicator of how we are doing. “Am I earning enough? Let me look at my friends. They seem to be earning less than [...]

If you want to know how to gain confidence, there are two sides of the equation. One is making sure that you do things that build up your confidence. The second is being able to deal with things that can potentially drain your confidence.

Think of this example. At the Smith Company office, John [...]

It’s an interesting fact of life, that most of us are very bad at picking who’s confident and who’s not.

It’s almost a good rule of thumb to acknowledge that most people are actually not confident. Most people could do with increasing their confidence.

The thing that confuses us, is that many people who [...]

Confidence isn’t just for the good times. In fact, the mark of a truly confident person is that they maintain their confidence when times are bad. People who are only confident when things are going well for them have a fragile confidence that you can’t really call true confidence.

So how do truly confident [...]